This is week four of a five part series I’m calling the “Five Fails of Spiritual Battle” Every Christian faces battles in the spiritual realm and no one should go into battle without a plan. But I’ve noticed that if we aren’t intentional about a good plan, we tend to default to a bad plan. Each of these is a strategy that falls into the category of “bad plan”.
Week 1) "FEET BEFORE KNEES"
Week 2) "FREE RANGE THOUGHTS"
Week 3) "FEAR BASED DECISIONS"
Week 4) "FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF"
Ever wonder why it feels so good to feel so bad?
Logically we should avoid self-pity like the plague because it just makes us miserable and then we're hard to live with, but self-pity tends to be our default place to go in an attempt to make ourselves feel better. The problem is that it never works.
The power of feeling sorry for ourselves is that we can be victims. Once we convince ourselves that we are victims, then we easily move to make a claim on other people's resources. If a child sees themselves as a victim, they're not happy until they see the scales balanced in their own view of justice. Adults aren't much better. An employee who thinks that they're a victim of being overworked and underpaid will rationalize all kinds of ways of robbing their boss.
It happens in every sphere of life. If a person starts to feel sorry for themselves, they will rationalize all kinds of bad behavior and can become a destructive force in families, churches and communities. The enemy has easy work steering a person's life who is wallowing in self-pity.
I think it's one of the reasons that God places so much importance on gratitude and thankfulness. It's impossible to be truly grateful and full of self-pity at the same time. I've found that the best antidote for self-pity is to start thanking God for all the ways that He's blessed me.
If you find yourself feeling sorry for yourself today; stop and thank God for all the ways that He has blessed you.