I am a second born child. One of the characteristics that tends to follow second born children is a fierce independence. I would much rather figure things out on my own than to ask for anyone's help. I taught myself to ride bike when I was young and I've figured out a lot of other things throughout my life. I hate paying someone to do something that I could do if I just took the time.
I am working on letting other people help me, but I was recently reminded that I'm still pretty independent when I wandered around Dollar General for ten minutes, looking for something because I didn't want to ask for help. I'm not sure why I do that. Maybe I'm too proud to admit that I have needs. I'd prefer to think of myself as very capable, but pride has more to do with it than I want to admit.
Independence can be a strength sometimes, but it can also keep us from coming to our Father in Heaven and asking for His help in our day to day activities. Jesus taught us to ask for daily things like bread when we pray. James said that we actually don't have things because we don't ask for them, and sometimes we ask but our motives are all messed up. (James 4:2-3)
Our Father wants us to turn to Him for help with the daily needs, the big life shaking events, and everything in between. He holds the entire universe in it's place with His word, but we act like He can't help us kick our gloomy attitude or give us the strength to resist temptation. We try to live life on our own strength and resources, and then wonder why we feel so powerless.
It's been said that prayer is our declaration of dependence on God and prayerless living is our declaration of independence from God. Do you declare your dependence on God by daily asking for His strength and provision? If not, why not?
Jim Cymbala says that one of the saddest things that could be said about us after we're gone would be that, "they had not because they asked not". I don't want to live life on my own wisdom and strength, so I'm going to need to humble myself and ask for help.